Thoughts For Men (2). Nice Guy or Godly Man.
These thoughts are directed at Christian men but I think they can also give non-Christian men something to think about.
This thought’s pretty much just a question: do you just want to be a nice guy or do you want to be a godly man?
At first it may seem like there’s not much difference, like being a nice guy and being a godly man is pretty much the same thing but such an opinion would be based on thoughts formed by only looking at the surface level of the matter and not taking the time to think about the differences and nuances involved in this.
I am not an authority on the subject of etiquette, manhood studies, male development, or anything like that so don’t take my words as absolute, fact or professional information. These are just my thoughts and opinions formed throughout my more-than-28 years of living on Earth. I’m just sharing thoughts and providing the males, the men out there, something to think about, to contemplate, to ponder, to provide something to get the thinking process going.
A mind not thinking is a mind that’s stagnant and dying. As they say “use it or lose it.” That goes for many things in life, in our possession and in our reach. Keep using your mind to think, learn, grow, better yourself so you can help others better.
Returning to the thought: who do you want to be – just a nice guy or a godly man? It may seem obvious that being a godly man is better than just being a nice guy and you’d be right to think that.
What’s a nice guy? Sometimes it’s synonymours with being kind, inoffensive, polite, helpful, soft, less of a man and more of a guy that just wants to keep the peace and see everyone get along. The nice guy might become a doormat for people, a pushover, the bullied, the one used and manipulated, the one who avoids conflict and tries to not offend, wants to appear tolerant, understanding, pleasant to be around, friendly. He’s a nice fellow and he’s just one of the guys who are like him.
That may seem like an exaggeration or extreme example but I think it’s accurate as a description. This raises the question – who doesn’t want to be a nice guy? Wouldn’t the world be better with more nice guys in it? I think in a way it would be a better world if suddenly many males became nice guys but it would quickly outlive the nice-guy effect because the world needs much more than niceness, the world needs more than nice guys. Nice guys don’t have what’s necessary to impact the world in the way that godly men can. History teaches that plainly for all who will see.
Moving on to the second part of the thought, the part about the godly man.
What’s a godly man, anyway? The godly man isn’t a synonym for a nice guy because the differences are stark, the contrast obvious, the similarities are not near enough to merit being called synonymous. Where to get an idea or definition of what a godly man is? I adhere to a Christian world view so that’s where I’m getting my idea and definition of who or what a godly man is.
Since this isn’t a lecture or lesson but just my thoughts shared and also an invitation for the men out there to share their thoughts, – men older and wiser, more experienced than I am, – I will just share my thoughts based on my knowledge and experience which I admit is limited compared to someone older and more knowledgeable than I.
A godly man is a true Christian, born-again and redeemed by the blood of Jesus Christ, saved from condemnation to Hell, saved by the grace of God through faith in Christ. That’s the 1st and most important requirement to be a godly man. Without that you can’t go past being just a nice guy. You may not be a Christian but feel like you’re a godly man but your feelings are wrong because you don’t have the most important requirement met to start on the way of the godly man. It’s not some religious babble, it’s the simple truth.
Ok, you’re a born-again Christian but people don’t call you a godly man; they just call you a nice guy, a nice Christian. Are you ok and happy with just being known as a nice Christian, not offending anyone, not stepping on any toes or rocking the boat or taking part in or starting conflicts no matter how necessary they may seem? I venture to say you’re not satisfied with such a safe life; the man within knows this isn’t who you’re called to be, you’re not here to live a safe and peaceful life avoiding all conflict and basically being a doormat at worst, merely nice at least. You’re called to much more than niceness; you’re called to genuine manhood; you’re called to live according to the way God has called you to live which will require much more and usually pretty much the opposite of being a nice guy.
Just being a nice guy won’t get you as far in life as you may think. Plus, you probably already feel it’s not what life’s about as a man of God; there’s more to life than just being nice to people and staying out of trouble. Also, trying to be nice to everyone is practially impossible, anyway. Being a godly man doesn’t mean being nice to everyone all the time; if that were true then we couldn’t call Jesus a godly man since He did some pretty shocking things, things no considered nice by any means. But we know Jesus was and is the best example of a man, a real man, a godly man, and He always did what every godly man should do. Jesus is our archetype, paragon, epitome of mandhood and godliness. We won’t find a better example to follow, imitate or grow into the likeness of than Jesus Christ. So, then, look to Jesus, all you men, and grow into His likeness by prayer and appropriate action required to become more like Him in word and deed, to become godly men, not just become or remain nice guys.
God calls you to authentic manhood, to be godly men, to accept the challenges and responsibilities of godly men, to refuse idleness, passivity, laziness, and mere niceness, to be courageous, to grow into the likeness of Christ and live to serve others as Christ commands, invites, and calls each of us to do.
To summarize: don’t care about being a nice guy; care about being a godly man.